All Things Wedding Venue

After you say “YES!” to your fiance, saying “YES!” to your wedding venue is the next big wedding-related commitment you will make (unless you intend to hire a wedding planner- and sometimes even then) . Locking in a venue will solidify your wedding date & location, provide you with insight into what other vendors you will need, and allow you to manage how the rest of your wedding budget is allocated. These key factors will guide you throughout the rest of your wedding planning. Feel confident with the venue you choose by following this guide!

This article is divided into 3 sections:

1. What you need to know and consider before beginning your venue search

2. Questions to ask a wedding venue prior to booking

3. Maximizing the value of your venue

What you need to know and consider before beginning your venue search

1. Plan your overall budget before signing a venue contract. Budget should come first and foremost when considering your venue. No matter what your budget is; it matters! As the single largest expense for most weddings, if you go over budget on the venue, the rest of the budget is going to suffer. If you are considering hosting a backyard wedding prepare a very realistic budget outline to weigh the actual cost! Sometimes backyard weddings can save money, sometimes they will end up costing more. It completely depends on your unique situation.

2. Consider your guest count. Guest count is going to have a massive impact on how much you spend on each aspect of your wedding. It will also limit your options for venues.  Many venues have maximum guest counts, while some venues have minimums! Some venues that can accommodate larger weddings will charge for people over a certain number (for example, a venue that has the potential to hold 500 guests may start charging $15/person after the first 100 guests). If you are considering hosting at a private property, a smaller guest count can make a backyard wedding more affordable while a larger guest count can push a backyard wedding well past what an actual venue would cost. 

3. Types of venues and what they include. Prior to beginning your venue search be sure to consider the varying levels of inclusivity offered. The type of venue you choose will have a big effect on how the rest of your budget will need to be allocated and how much effort the rest of planning will require. While venues range drastically on what they include or don’t include, there are five general “blanket categories” that they will typically fall into.

   1. All inclusive venues- Some venues are truly one stop shops. This means they will provide almost everything you need for your wedding! True all inclusive venues aren’t common and are usually only found at popular tourist and destination wedding locations.These venues always include a ceremony area, chairs for the ceremony, altar, appetizers, full meal, cake, service staff, tables, table linens, dinner chairs, plates, napkins, silverware, drinking glasses, basic decor, lighting, dance floor, day of coordination, timeline preparation and a photographer. They will often also include design consultations, an open or semi-open bar, florals, DJ, sound equipment, bridal suite, hotel suite for the newly weds, an officiant for your ceremony, and/or a videographer. They will usually also offer package deals on hotel rooms for guests and occasionally may include a few guest rooms in the overall package price. These venues will usually offer optional upgrades to any of the services they provide for additional fees. This all sounds expensive, but often they are actually less expensive than piecemealing a wedding together from afar (especially considering the typically high cost of weddings at popular destination wedding locations). A major drawback to a venue like this is the lack of customization available. These venues work well for destination weddings since it is harder to plan a wedding from afar. 

   2. Mostly inclusive venues- Mostly inclusive venues are fairly common. These venues are typically hotels, ballrooms, event halls, etc. These venues almost always include appetizers, full meal, cake, service staff, tables, table linens, dinner chairs, plates, napkins, silverware, drinking glasses, lighting, dance floor, basic clean up, and a venue coordinator (different than a day of coordinator! More on this under item #13). Essentially everything you need to host a nice party will be included. Fairly often they will also include a ceremony area, chairs for the ceremony, altar, bar, and/or basic decor. You will still need to find vendors like your coordinator, photographer, videographer, florist, DJ, hair and makeup teams, officiant, etc. Again, it sounds like all of this would be expensive, but often it ends up being less money than independently hiring each vendor since so much is bundled into one package! These types of venues still lack the full freedom for customization and often come with outside vendor restrictions (meaning, you will likely have to select vendors from their pre approved vendor list). 

   3. Somewhat inclusive venues- Somewhat inclusive venues typically provide power, bathrooms, tables, chairs, onsite security, and parking. Often they will also include a dance floor, lighting, physical bar space, additional tables for special displays (i.e. dessert, gifts, welcome table, etc.), ceremony area, ceremony seating, altar, bathroom amenities (toilet tissue, soap, paper towels, etc), running water for vendors, trash removal, and/or a venue coordinator (different from a day of coordinator!). These venues are usually fairly open to allowing outside vendors and typically come at a lower starting rate. These venues allow for a lot of customization! If you are considering a venue that matches this description be sure to take a very close look at your overall budget before signing a contract. Though the site fee may seem low, the overall cost of the wedding may end up being higher once you select all of your other vendors. 

   4. Almost blank slate venues- Some venues label themselves as “blank slates,” but they aren’t truly blank slates. They will include the absolute basics like power, restrooms, and parking. They will occasionally include things like covered or indoor areas, lighting, water access for vendors, parking attendants, security, trash cans, trash bags, bathroom amenities (i.e. toilet tissue, soap, paper towels, etc.), and/or trash removal. They rarely have strict rules and/or vendor restrictions. These venues offer a lot of room to customize your wedding, and the site fees are often much lower than a more inclusive venue, but again, be sure to consider all of the other expenses your wedding will incur prior to signing a contract.  

   5. Truly blank slate venues- Blank slate venues are essentially empty areas that you transform into an event space. You will need generators for power, bathrooms, lighting... EVERYTHING. Since these spaces require everything to be brought in, they rarely have strict rules and/or vendor restrictions. This offers a ton of room for customization! It also allows for a lot of room for error (think Fyre Fest). Prior to booking, be sure to think through every single aspect of what is needed to host your wedding and make sure you are up for the challenge! The key to hosting a successful wedding at a blank slate venue will be a can-do attitude and an amazing team of vendors! The site fees are usually lower compared to more inclusive venues with a similar aesthetic in the area, however, cost effectiveness is about 50/50 on these venues. Depending on your design vision and the site fee, creating your desired wedding aesthetic piecemealing your wedding together may end up costing more or less than hosting at a more inclusive type of venue. 

4. What time of year are you hoping to host your wedding? The time of year you choose to host your wedding will greatly affect a few aspects of your wedding venue. 

   1. Pricing- Most venues have “off season” and “peak season” pricing. Since winter weddings are less common, venues offer lower pricing to fill their winter dates. 

   2. Weather- The weather changes with the season and should be taken into consideration when choosing a venue. If you are getting married at a particularly rainy, cold, hot, or windy time of year, outdoor venues or venues without AC can create some challenges. Accommodating for the weather may impose some additional costs (i.e. tent, heaters, umbrellas, or fans rentals).

   3. Landscape- As the weather changes so does the natural landscape. This is particularly important for outdoor venues, but is still relevant for indoor venues with larger windows. The leaves change color, certain flowers may or may not be in bloom, the grass may be green or beige, etc. The natural color schemes present on your wedding date will affect your overall aesthetic.

      Pro-tip #1: Visit your venue around the time of year you will be married to fully understand the naturally occurring elements. If physically visiting is not possible, find pictures from previous weddings held at your venue from around the same time in previous years.

5. Indoor, outdoor, or combo venue?

   1. Indoor venues- 

      1. Pros- Controlling the climate is usually a non-issue! Weather can’t easily rain on your parade if you are indoors! In addition, power, restrooms, and water are almost always available at indoor venues. You also are less likely to have your music volume closely monitored since the music won’t be as audible to neighbors (some sound ordinances may still need to be adhered to).

      2. Cons- Most of the negatives of an indoor venue are purely aesthetic. There is always less natural light than at an outdoor venue. You will also have to work around existing decor (i.e. wall color, flooring, art pieces, lighting, etc.). Indoor venues are also more likely to have strict policies on how and where decor can be displayed (more on this under item 11).

   2. Outdoor venues-

      1. Pros- Outdoor venues are beautiful! There is always a lot of natural light and the existing foliage will add to the overall aesthetic. The smell of your dinner won’t linger in the air throughout dinner, and you will have the opportunity to dance under the stars!

      2. Cons- You will need to consider the weather to ensure guest comfort. Wildlife may also be an issue (i.e. BUGS). Sound ordinances are usually a bigger issue at outdoor venues (though many remote outdoor venues won’t have this problem).

   3. Combination Indoor/Outdoor venues- The indoor and outdoor spaces of a venue that offers both can be utilized in a variety of ways. The most common use of space is to host the ceremony and cocktail hour outdoors and dinner and dancing take place indoors. It is fairly common for dinner to also take place outdoors, it just depends on the available space and venue restrictions. Some venues will have strict, designated areas for each portion of the wedding to take place, while others will allow you to use each space as you see fit.

      1. Pros- You get the best of both worlds! At least a portion of your wedding will occur in the gorgeous natural light surrounded by the beautiful landscape. If there is inclimate weather, you have a built in backup plan at little to no additional cost! Since dancing usually occurs indoors you are less likely to have noise volume strictly monitored. 

      2. Cons- You may love one of the spaces, but not be totally in love with the other. Maybe just the indoor or outdoor area is really speaking to you, but the other space is a compromise. You are also likely to run into some decor placement and display restrictions for the indoor portion of the event. You will also have to work around existing decor and design elements in the space.

6. Separate ceremony and reception locations / things to consider when selecting a place of worship. Some religions or specific religious leaders require wedding ceremonies to take place within a place of worship. Some couples simply prefer to be married in a place of worship. Since chapels, synagogues, temples, etc. don’t usually allow receptions to be held onsite, you will need to find another space to host the celebration following your ceremony. Many reception venues do offer ceremony locations which are perfect for couples looking for minimal or no religion in their ceremony or for couples who have a religious leader willing to perform a marriage ceremony outside of a place of worship. If you choose to split the ceremony and reception between two venues there are a few things you can do to make the transition smoother. 

   1. Consider proximity- Choose venues relatively close together (more on this under item #8 section d). 

   2. Plan for guest transport- It is nice to provide transportation for guests between the two locations. This is not necessary, but if it fits into your budget it is a huge convenience for guests, ensures all guests make it to the reception location in a timely manner, and guarantees guests won’t be drinking and driving later in the night.

   3. Ask about parking- If the venues are walking distance from one another or if you provide transportation between the venues but not to the ceremony location, ask the venue if guests are able to leave their cars at the ceremony location for the duration of your reception. Be sure to ask about overnight parking as well! If guests drink at the reception or simply don’t want to return to the ceremony location that evening they may choose to leave their vehicle overnight. Confirm the rules on this and communicate the expectation (and potential repercussions) with guests so they can prepare accordingly.

   4. Decor- Ask about decor restrictions at your ceremony location. Many places of worship have restrictions on what decor can and cannot be placed. Also consider: what decor you will need at each space, who will set up the decor at each space, if decor can be transferred between spaces, and who will transfer the decor if necessary. 

   5. Ask about vendor restrictions- Many places of worship have restrictions on what vendors can be onsite and/or policies on how vendors should conduct themselves. For example, many places of worship will limit photographer access and only allow them to take pictures from the back of the chapel, synagogue, temple, etc. Some won’t allow photographers or videographers at all! While this isn’t particularly common, it is worth discussing prior to signing a contract!

7. Consider the overall aesthetic you are going for. All venues will have some kind of existing aesthetic that may or may not work with your design vision. An event space such as a ballroom, conference room, etc., has carpeting, wall colors, table and chair choices, and existing artwork to take into consideration. Outdoor venues will have trees that produce different colors in different seasons. When you tour venues, make sure you are looking at every existing design element (both natural and manmade), and consider how it will work with your desired aesthetic. Click here for more on building a wedding design and how this is relevant to your venue.

8. Location, location, location. The physical location of the venue is so important, but how it is important will vary depending on each couple’s unique situation. 

   1. Traveling guests- If a large portion of your guest list (over 25%) will be traveling by plane to attend your wedding, consider proximity to an airport. You don’t necessarily need to be next door, but within an hour of an airport is ideal. If a large portion are traveling by either plane or car, you will need to consider where the nearest hotel is.

   2. Hotel proximity- Speaking of hotels and traveling guests, you will need to find a hotel that is relatively close to the reception venue. Finding a hotel that is close and affordable for guests is convenient and ensures that your block is filled so you aren’t left with a hefty bill for unfilled rooms. This will also decrease travel time and transportation costs to and from the venue.

   3. Travel fees- For particularly remote locations, many vendors will charge a travel fee. This should be considered into your overall budget if you have fallen in love with a venue that is a ways off the beaten path. 

   4. Separate ceremony and reception venues- If you are hosting your ceremony and reception at separate venues you will need to find two spaces that are relatively close together. This makes commuting more convenient for guests, but will also maximize your time with vendors that need to be at both locations like your photographer, videographer, coordinator, etc. 

   5. Location aesthetic- If you have a specific look or feel you are going for (i.e. beach, woodsy, mountains, rustic, modern/industrial, etc.) make sure you find a venue that will work for your feel. While it is not 100% necessary to have a beach venue for a beach themed wedding, finding a location that inherently encompasses your theme will help make your design more cohesive.

9. Think about your absolute “must haves.” Your venue “must haves” can be anything! For some people, being within budget may be the biggest “must have,” for others it may be location, date availability, aesthetic, or any other number of things. Before beginning your venue search, write out a list of the most important venue elements to you and your fiance. Order the deciding factors based on priority level. This will help guide your venue search! You may not find a space that checks off all of the boxes, but try to find a venue that includes at least the majority of your most sought after features. 

10. Look for the “wow” factor. At all price points you can find venues with a “wow” factor. This may be a stunning view, interesting history, perfect location, incredible price, or any other number of things. The “wow” factor is what makes your venue stand out above the rest.

11. Rules and restrictions may apply. Read the fine print before booking a venue and have a very clear understanding of what you are signing up for. There are a few common restrictions that many couples find are deal breakers.

    1. Vendor restrictions- Many venues will have strict vendor policies. The strictest vendor policies only allow you to book from the venue’s pre-approved vendor list. This often means booking vendors who don’t exactly work with your vision and/or are not in your desired price range. If you are considering a venue with this policy be sure to personally vet each vendor they require prior to signing a contract with the venue. Some venues will allow you to bring in outside vendors as long as they are licensed, insured, and/or sign a document saying they agree to the venue’s “house rules.” This approach is actually in your best interest! Hiring professionals to work your wedding is very important (as opposed to finding “hobbyists” or random people agreeing to provide a service they don’t typically do) and having the vendors sign an agreement with the venue takes some of the liability for accidents on the vendors’ part off of you.

    2. Fire restrictions- Many venues, especially in drier areas, have limits on fires. Some absolutely prohibit any kind of flame. Some may only allow contained flames. If your design vision includes a lot of candles or you’ve always dreamed of a sparkler exit, this restriction won’t work for you. Note that fire restrictions will often completely prohibit smoking. If you have a large number of guests who smoke and a venue with strict policies make sure to communicate this to your guests so they can make appropriate accommodations for themselves and you aren’t stuck with a hefty fine at the end of the night!

    3. End time- It is fairly common, especially for outdoor venues in areas with sound ordinances, to have strict end times when the party must stop. If you were picturing your friends and family dancing into the wee hours of the morning, a venue with a 10:30pm end time is not going to work for.

    4. Sound restrictions- Apart from (though sometimes in conjunction with) sound ordinances, some venues will require your noise level stay below a certain decibel. This makes sense for a lot of venues. Annoying the neighbors with loud music is a quick way to lose an event license! There are two main approaches to ensuring this happens. 

       1. They require your DJ use their house speaker system- More often than not, the house systems are fine! They provide ample sound and the DJ may even offer a discount since they won’t need to provide their own sound equipment. However, occasionally the house systems are less than stellar. Sometimes they are so quiet that guests won’t want to dance and/or the microphone can’t be heard. Another typical problem with house systems is equipment failure. Your DJ may be able to quickly troubleshoot if something goes wrong with their own equipment (things happen, technology isn’t perfect), but they may not be particularly familiar with the ins and outs of the house system. Often the wires for house systems are run through walls, so troubleshooting isn’t even possible for the duration of your event. Some ways to ensure neither of these situations occur or will be an issue: 1) during your venue tour listen to the house system at the maximum allowed volume. Consider how that volume will translate to a full room. Remember, the volume will sound much louder when the room is empty! 2) Ask about the backup plan should anything go array with the sound. Will your DJ be allowed to set up their own equipment if something goes wrong? Is someone onsite to help troubleshoot? If the venue does provide a designated person to troubleshoot, are they a sound engineer with experience, or is it a site manager who is just doing their best? 3) Thoroughly read reviews of the venue for specific mentions of the sound quality. If any sound issue has commonly occurred in the past, it will surely be mentioned in reviews!

       2. They monitor the sound the DJ or musician is producing- This typically won’t affect the microphone at all, but occasionally it will have an impact on the dancing portion of the evening. Again, read reviews and look for common mention of sound restrictions proving to be an issue.

    5. Alcohol limitations- Beyond the basics, such as only serving alcohol to those of the legal age limit and not over serving guests, some venues have strict rules on alcohol or may not allow any alcohol. While almost all venues require licensed bartenders (if they don’t require this, you should absolutely only hire a licensed bartender anyway), some will take their rules a step further by restricting the alcohol to beer and wine only or none at all. This is a less common rule, but it is a quick decision making limitation for couples that want to provide alcohol for their guests. 

    6. Trash removal- Trash removal is such an underrated service. If you find yourself at a venue that does not include trash removal and you haven’t planned an alternative for trash removal, you will come to appreciate just how important this piece is at the end of your wedding. Some venues will include this in their services, others will not. While this may not be a reason to count out a venue, it is certainly a huge plus when you find it listed in a venue’s package! If you book with a venue that does not include trash removal be sure to thoroughly plan for this!

    7. Decor restrictions- Most venues don’t want you to place any decor in such a way that could potentially damage or permanently alter their existing space. It makes sense! The venue will host many events after yours, and everyone deserves to have the same quality of space so they can’t risk you changing permanently. There are plenty of ways to still incorporate all of your design elements, though it may be a little trickier and more expensive than simply nailing something to the wall. This may not work for your vision! If you want gorgeous, lush hanging floral arrangements, a venue that won’t allow this isn’t going to be a good fit. Note: There are plenty of ways to still have all of the hanging pieces you want! Installing them just may come at a higher price!

    8. Rental restrictions- Some venues (typically higher end venues) often have lovely furniture that was carefully selected to work with the rest of the design elements in their space. Occasionally a venue that has invested in quality furnishings will be reluctant (or outright refuse) to move their property to storage. It is not particularly common for couples to replace the existing furniture at these types of venues anyway, but, of course, there are exceptions! If you find a beautiful venue, and want to go a different route with the furniture make sure they allow outside rentals to replace their furniture prior to signing a contract with them. 

    9. Photography restrictions- This is not a common restriction for venues to have, but when they do it is a quick way to send couples running! Usually venues that have photography restrictions will still allow photography, you will just need a permit beforehand. If that is the case, photography restrictions shouldn’t necessarily be a deal breaker. If no photos are allowed, be sure you are comfortable with this and communicate the restriction with guests so you aren’t stuck with a fine at the end of the night!

12. Know the difference between a venue coordinator and a day of coordinator. There is often a lot of confusion around the role of a venue coordinator and it is often assumed they will act as a day-of coordinator. This misunderstanding can result in the cost of a day of coordinator being overlooked initially, and then being added down the road. This is a huge expense to leave out of the overall budget! Make sure you understand the difference and know exactly what your venue’s package includes.

    1. Venue coordinator- A venue coordinator’s job is to manage all of the venue related services. This usually includes ensuring the tables and chairs are arranged how you previously discussed, handling bathroom restocking, taking care of maintenance issues, making sure the venue’s policies and protocols are adhered to, etc. Just as your photographer will take care of all things photography, but only photography, your venue coordinator is the representative and team captain for the venue, and only the venue.

    2. Day-of coordinator- The day of coordinator does all of the things you would typically take care of as the host of a party. They are the team captain of all of the wedding vendors, including the venue coordinator. In a nutshell, they usually take care of making the space pretty and ensuring the day runs smoothly. They communicate with all of the vendors beforehand to make sure everyone is on the same page, ensure vendors arrive on time, start at their contracted time, perform all of the tasks they agreed to, and are cued before special events. They will troubleshoot if something goes awry with the vendors or the timeline. This is your right-hand for the day, taking care of all of the behind the scenes aspects to your wedding so you can focus on getting married and celebrating! Click here to learn more about the wedding coordinator’s role in your big day!

13. Day of the week and pricing. Many venues have special pricing for weekdays, Fridays, and Sundays. Since these days are less common for weddings to occur, venues will often offer their space at a lower rate to fill the dates! 

Questions to ask a venue prior to booking

The basics-

1. Are you available on my desired date? If not, what days within a few weeks of my desired date do you have open?

2. Do you require a deposit? How much?

3. When is the balance due?

4. What is your preferred method of payment?

5. What is your cancellation policy if I cancel?

6. What is your cancellation policy if you cancel?

7. What is your rescheduling policy if I need to change my date?

8. What is the backup plan if you are unable to fulfill your contract due to a last minute conflict?

9. Are there any additional fees, such as taxes, staffing fees, etc., that are not included in the package price?

10. Are you licensed?

11. Are you insured? Does the insurance cover all of your staff and property?

Pricing details & Venue Requirements-

1. What is the site fee?

2. Is there special pricing for off season dates or days that are not Saturday?

3. Do you offer discounts if I pay in full upfront?

4. Do you offer discounts if I pay cash? 

5. Do you charge a service fee if I pay with a credit card?

6. How many total hours will we have access to the space?

7. How many guests can your venue accommodate?

8. Are there additional fees if I have over a certain number of guests?

9. Will you provide me with a preferred vendors list?

10. Do you require that I use only your pre approved vendors?

11. Do you have restrictions on outside vendors?

12. Are there any additional fees for using outside vendors?

13. Do my vendors need insurance?

14. Am I required to have any specific type of vendor (i.e. security, valet, parking attendant, a wedding planner, or day of coordinator)?

15. Do I need event insurance?

16. Do you have any restrictions on open flames (i.e. candles, sparklers, cigarettes, etc.)?

17. Do you have any sound restrictions?

18. Are there any restrictions regarding alcohol? (i.e. Are we allowed to have alcohol? Do I need a licensed bartender? Can I provide my own alcohol? Is there a specific required time for last call?)

19. Are there any restrictions to what decor I can use or how decor is displayed?

20. Are there any additional services you offer that I can add to my package?

LOGISTICS-

1. How many hours prior to my wedding start time will vendors and the bridal party have access to the space?

2. Is there a limit to how many hours my event can last?

3. What is the absolute latest my wedding can go until?

4. Is there an additional fee past a certain time of night?

5. Do you have restrooms onsite?

6. Do you provide bathroom essentials (i.e. toilet tissue, running water, paper towels, etc.)?

7. Do you have ADA compliant restrooms and access throughout the venue?

8. Do you provide power, water, a kitchen, covered areas, lighting, and/or other accommodations my vendors may need?

9. Is there adequate existing lighting or will I need to bring in my own?

10. Do you provide tables, chairs, ceremony seating, physical bar space, heaters, tents, umbrellas, etc.?

11. Do you offer spaces for the bridal party to get ready? Can I see them? (Hint: Check for showers, sinks with running water, outlets, mirrors, lighting, AC, and overall space provided.)

12. Do you provide any staff for my wedding?

13. Does the venue staff take care of maintaining and stocking the restrooms? 

14. Does the venue staff take care of trash removal?

15. Do you provide security?

16. Do you provide parking attendants and/or valet?

17. Will I have access to the space for my ceremony rehearsal and, if so, for how many hours?

18. When will I be able to reserve my rehearsal date?

19. Where will my guests park?

20. In the past, how easily are guests able to call taxis or rideshares?

21. If the venue is in a remote location with limited cell phone service, do you provide Wifi?

22. Are you anticipating making any changes to the space between now and my wedding date?

Maximizing the value of your venue

1. Ask the venue manager about common oversights or mishaps that occur at their venue. The venue manager or event manager is at this location every single weekend. They know their venue and packages backwards and forwards. They also bare witness to any planning flaws that come to light during the course of an event. Ask about the most common oversights! Usually reoccurring oversights will be something logistical, like trash removal or having adequate lighting. All of these oversights are easily avoided by talking through them prior to your wedding!

2. Communicate often (as necessary) with the venue manager. The venue manager is your ally in wedding planning. Though they aren’t a wedding planner, they can still offer valuable insight into how ideas similar to yours previously worked in their space. They may have suggestions of how to most effectively utilize their space, how many service staff members to hire, where to place decor, what floral pieces work best where, etc. Let them know of any changes in your design or overall wedding planning so they are able to pivot as necessary. This will also allow the venue manager the opportunity to help you only plan things that the venue allows and avoid any fines. Before purchasing 200 sparklers, confirm with your venue manager that this is okay!  

3. Take your wedding planner or coordinator to the venue beforehand. Although pictures will help immensely, there is nothing like seeing a space in person to fully grasp your wedding vision. By attending a venue walkthrough with your planner or coordinator, you will be able to show them exactly where and how you want everything set up. They will also be able to offer their professional opinion on the functionality of your vision, floor plan, design plan. They will also be able to suggest additional design elements where necessary and troubleshoot any issues they find in the space prior to your wedding day!

4. Use the existing amenities. If possible, utilize the furniture, accent pieces, etc. provided by the venue instead of replacing it with outside rentals. This will save you money and time! The furnishings provided by the venue usually work well with the overall aesthetic of the space, anyway, so it is a win-win!

5. Work with the aesthetic, not against it. Play up the existing aesthetic of the space. If the carpet is blue, use it as one of your wedding accent colors. If the overall feel of the space is vintage, incorporate this into your wedding design. This will have a dramatically positive impact on the way everything comes together and ultimately save you a lot of headache over trying to work around the existing design. Having a general idea of your desired overall aesthetic prior to booking your venue is a huge advantage! 

6. Take their preferred vendor list to heart, but do your own research. Venues usually provide clients with a preferred vendors list. This list includes their favorite vendors who they have seen work successfully in their space. Not only are these vendors familiar with the floor plan, venue policies, and venue staff, they are almost always licensed professionals with years of experience. Do your own research into the vendors listed, though! Some of the vendors may not be the right fit for your vision or personality. The venue may have also had ulterior motives for adding these vendors to the list. Oftentimes vendors will offer each other monetary compensation for referrals and, unfortunately, on rare occasions those kickbacks can supersede vendor quality.

7. Take a lot of pictures during your walk through. A picture is worth a thousand words, but in the case of wedding planning they may be worth two thousand! As you hire vendors sending them pictures of the blank space will be useful for understanding the space you are describing. Your florist will be able to see exactly how much space they need to fill. Your planner will be able to envision the design elements needed to customize the space for you. The DJ and caterer will be able to gauge where and how to best set up. Your photographer will get an idea of lighting and where to take pictures. You will also benefit from these pictures as you work to complete your design. Often little details will be overlooked as you try to recall the space from memory. Pictures will help figuratively fill in the gaps throughout planning, so you can literally fill them with your wedding design!

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Rehearsal Dinner Planning Guide

Wedding day is right around the corner! A ceremony rehearsal is almost always necessary in order to get the bridal party and family members on the same page about how the ceremony, and the day as a whole, will run. This time is a great opportunity to share the timeline, ceremony details, and other pertinent information that you won’t want to spend time explaining on the actual wedding day. 

Rehearsal dinner usually immediately follows the ceremony rehearsal and is typically the final gathering of friends and family prior to the big day. Below is a planning guide to help you manage the who, what, when, where, why, and how of this event. Follow this guide or share it with the event host for a smooth rehearsal dinner planning experience! 

What is the purpose of rehearsal dinner?

This event is intended to gather your bridal party and immediate family in an intimate setting before the big day. Oftentimes family or bridal party members travel for your wedding and/or take time away from work or other obligations to attend the rehearsal and celebrate your love. This is an opportunity to show thanks for all that your bridal party and family have done for you!

When should the rehearsal dinner take place?

Rehearsal dinner typically occurs directly following the ceremony rehearsal. This means that it will take place either the night before or a few days prior to your wedding. While it is called “rehearsal dinner” it doesn’t necessarily have to be a dinner. If you host the rehearsal earlier in the day, it can be a rehearsal brunch or lunch. If you want something a little less formal you can have a rehearsal “happy hour” or something similar that implies a gathering that doesn’t necessarily include a full meal.

Pro-tip #1: Know your friends and plan accordingly. If you have a bridal party that likes to drink heavily, host the event two days before your wedding instead of the night before. No one wants a hungover bridal party on their wedding day! If this isn’t an option, limit the alcohol provided to wine and beer only.

Example rehearsal dinner planning timeline-

6 months prior to the wedding- 

Create a guest list for the rehearsal dinner

Decide on the general “feel” for your rehearsal dinner (formal, casual, something in between?)

Contact ceremony venue and confirm rehearsal date

Find & book a venue to host the dinner

3 months prior to the wedding-

Consider how you want to invite your guests to rehearsal dinner

Order invitations if necessary

2 months prior to the wedding- 

Send out invitations to rehearsal dinner (send these sooner if a lot of guests are traveling so they can book travel arrangements accordingly!)

1 month prior to the wedding-

Find decor for rehearsal dinner

Select attire for rehearsal dinner

1 day(ish) prior to the wedding- 

Host ceremony rehearsal

Host rehearsal dinner

Who hosts the rehearsal dinner?

Traditionally the groom’s parents take on this task, but the host can be anyone, and completely depends on your situation. If the groom’s parents aren’t able to host- or if you have two brides-, it can be the bride’s parents, other relatives, or even yourselves! The bridal party doesn’t typically take charge of this event, since the event is intended as a “thank you” for them. 

How should I invite people?

As always, there are no set rules. Sending formal invitations by mail is great if you have the time and wiggle room in the budget, but not necessary by any means! Many other wedding blogs and older generations would strongly disagree with me on this, though, so be prepared for a host coming from an older generation to find formal invitations necessary. Since the guest list is typically just those absolutely closest to you, invitations can easily be sent via email, Facebook, or even a quick text!

No matter how you choose to spread word about the party, the invitations do not need to be as formal as the wedding invitations. These invitations also do not need to be a reflection of your wedding design in any way, though they usually do incorporate aspects of your wedding design. You, or the host, can pick whatever aesthetic makes you all happy!

Pro-tip #2: If you and your host disagree on how invitations should be sent, choosing to mail more casual invitations with bright colors and fun fonts can be a good compromise!

Pro-tip #3: Take this one with a grain of salt, but… pick and choose your battles. There will probably be plenty of opinions coming your way about the wedding that you will need to navigate. If the host of this event feels really strongly about the invitations, this may not be the hill to die on. 

Who should be invited?

Who you invite depends on the overall feel you are going for. Typically it is just your immediate family and anyone who is walking down the aisle (in other words, any one who needs to attend the ceremony rehearsal). 

Here is a general outline of who is typically invited:

• Your bridal party AND a guest*

  *Not everyone has to have a guest. If they have traveled out of town with a “plus one” to your wedding, that person is usually invited to the rehearsal dinner. If you are good friends with their significant other, that person should be invited. If they are scrolling through Tinder and find someone they’d like to invite... you DEFINITELY don’t need to invite them. 

• Your immediate families (if your relationship with them allows for this)

• If the host has a larger budget and you have a large wedding guest list (usually applicable if 250+), occasionally extended family who traveled from out of town will be invited too. If you invite your out of town extended family, most people will include their in town relatives as well.

What information should the invitations include?

As always, names, date, location, and time will need to be included on the invitation. The host should also specify what kind of refreshments can be expected (appetizers only, full dinner, hosted bar, BYOB, no alcohol, etc.) Be sure to include the time and location of the actual ceremony rehearsal, too!

The rehearsal dinner host may also want to include their name and that is totally fine! People will often word the invites “The parents/aunt/cousin/friend/etc. of X invite you to the wedding rehearsal of their daughter/son/other to [Fiance name here] [list time and location]. Dinner to follow [list time and location].”

Information at a glance:

• Bride(s) & Groom(s) names

• Date

• Ceremony rehearsal time

• Ceremony rehearsal location

• “Dinner to follow at……”

• Rehearsal dinner time

• Rehearsal dinner location

Who should pay for the rehearsal dinner?

The cost of the rehearsal dinner typically will fall on the host. This varies on a case by case basis depending on financial situations. Some hosts may ask you to pay for a portion of the rehearsal dinner. If you cannot afford to fund any portion of the party, let the host know, and suggest a more casual or smaller rehearsal dinner to accommodate their budget! Much like the actual wedding, budget isn’t what defines the day. The most important aspect is celebrating your love while surrounded by the people who mean the most to you and your fiance! (See the end of blog for full example budget breakdowns.)

Where should the rehearsal dinner be hosted?

The rehearsal dinner can be hosted in any location, it will just depend on the size of the guest list, access to space, and budget. While the event can be as formal or informal as the host would like, they are usually hosted at a restaurant near the wedding venue. Choosing a private room in a restaurant can often be less expensive since so much will be included (i.e. in house catering, tables, chairs, flatware, plates, napkins, drinkware, bar, centerpieces, etc.) If a restaurant is not in the budget, a casual backyard get together is not out of the norm!

Pro-tip #4: Since the ceremony rehearsal usually takes place at the ceremony venue, it is most convenient for guests if rehearsal dinner is held at a restaurant or other location nearby. 

What should we do at the rehearsal dinner?

Eat, drink, and socialize! The rehearsal is a great opportunity to distribute gifts to the bridal party and family. It is also the perfect time to allow bridal party members who will not be giving toasts at the wedding to give a quick speech!

Is a full meal expected at the rehearsal dinner?

YES! This does not mean you have to include one, but if you do not plan to serve a full dinner, communicate that with your guests so they can plan accordingly.

Rehearsals are typically a nicer meal, but that doesn’t mean yours has to be! A backyard BBQ or quick pizza party is completely acceptable! If the host wants to go all out and provide a full 5 course, sit down dinner, that is fine, too. As long as they are paying for it, and you are comfortable with it, there are no right or wrong answers as to what should be served.

What should be included in the budget?

This completely depends on what the budget allows for and what the host chooses to include! Below are some typical things to consider budgeting for:

• Venue

• Catering

• Tables, chairs, plates, cups, flatware, napkins, etc. 

• Bar

• Cake/dessert

• Invitations

• Decor

• Miscellaneous 

Of course there are endless approaches to maximize any budget! Below are 3 example budgets for rehearsal dinners.

Example 1 (the “bells and whistles” example)- overall budget $9k

40 guests, 2.5 hour party

Party Planner- $850

Venue- Nice Restaurant (includes tables, chairs, plates, flatware, cups, and food)- @ $100/person = $4,000

Bar (through venue- beer, wine, & top shelf liquor)- @ $30/person = $1,200

Photographer- $500

Music/entertainment (Live guitarist & singer)- $600

Cake from speciality bakery (2 tier 6” base, 4” top tier)- $450

Invitations (mailed invitations, w/ stamps & envelopes)- @$5/household = $90

Decor- $1,300

1 large balloon display $200

Florist (garland runners for tables & 2 accent pieces)- $1,000

Signage (welcome sign, seating chart, place cards, etc.)- $150

TOTAL: $8,995

Example 2 (the “mid range” example)- overall budget $2k

40 guests, 2.5 hour party

Venue- mid range restaurant (includes tables, chairs, plates, flatware, cups, and food)- @ $30/person = $1,200

Bar (through venue- beer & wine only)- @ $15/person = $600

Music/entertainment (restaurant music)- FREE

Dessert provided by restaurant, included in per person cost- NO EXTRA FEE

Invitations (mailed invitations, w/ stamps & envelopes)- @$2/household = $60

Decor- $65

DIY Trader Joe’s flowers 4 bushels @ $5/each- $20

Dollar tree vases, 5 @ $1/each = $5

Signage (enlarged poster of engagement pic, printed at Costco)- $40

TOTAL: $1,922

Example 3 (the “ballin’ on a budget” example)- overall budget $350

40 guests, 2.5 hour party

Venue (backyard) - FREE

Catering (pizza party! 10 pizzas @ $13/each + tip)- $150

Tables & chairs (use friend’s folding tables & chairs, buy dollar tree table covers)- $10

Plates, plasticware, and drinkware (use disposable- comes with pizza)- FREE

Bar (6 cases of beer @$15/each)- $90

Music (make playlist and set up your own speaker)- FREE

Cake/dessert (single tier, local grocer)- $35

Invitations (Send out email or create Facebook event)- FREE

Decor- $50

DIY Flowers (Trader Joe’s flowers) 5 bushels @ $5/bushel = $25

Dollar store vases 1 per table @$1/each = $8

Candles & dollar tree candle votives (2 per table)- $2/each = $16

TOTAL: $335

As you can see, the third example can easily decrease in price by only offering BYOB, cutting out all decor, skipping dessert and/or ordering cheaper pizza. Basically this is all to say, no budget is too small!

Bridal Shower Planning Guide

A bridal shower is a great milestone in the wedding preparation journey for the bride to enjoy the company of friends and family before the wedding! The bridal shower is different from the bachelorette party in that it is typically shorter and a more “tame” gathering. Follow the guide below, or share it with the event host, for a smooth bridal shower planning experience!

Why have a bridal shower-

A bridal shower is a party where friends and family gather to shower the bride with gifts! Much like a baby shower functions as a chance to prepare an expecting mother for a life transition, the bridal shower is meant to provide the bride with gifts that will help prepare her for the upcoming life changes that marriage will bring. While the primary function of this event is to dote upon the bride, it is also a fun opportunity to play games, introduce friends from different walks of life, and build memories!

When should the bridal shower be?

Bridal showers typically occur in the final few months, or even weeks, before the wedding. It is best to schedule this just before the final stages of planning take up all of the bride’s free time! Scheduling this party 30-45 days prior to the wedding is ideal!

The bridal shower will typically occur during daylight hours as opposed to being a nighttime event. 

Example bridal shower planning timeline-

3 months prior to wedding- 

Set a budget for the bridal shower

Create a guest list for the bridal shower

Gather addresses or email addresses of the guests

Decide on the general “feel” for the bridal shower (formal, casual, something in between?)

Find a venue to host the shower

2 months prior to wedding-

Plan the food and drink menus

Send out invitations to bridal shower

Find decor for bridal shower

Select attire for bridal shower

Book any necessary vendors

Plan activities for the bridal shower

1 month prior to wedding-

Purchase bar and food materials

Purchase flowers & decor

Host bridal shower

Who hosts the bridal shower?

More often than not the bridesmaids, bride or groom’s mother, or another close friend or family member will host the bridal shower. It is uncommon for the bride to host this event for herself since the primary function is to shower the bride with gifts.

How should I invite people?

As always, there are no set rules. Sending formal invitations by mail is great if you have the time and budget, but not necessary by any means! For bridal showers, it is a more recent trend to create a cute virtual invite that is distributed via email. This bridges the gap between official invitations and something that requires less effort. This also provides the opportunity to link a registry directly on the invitation so guests can conveniently click the link and purchase a gift!

Who should be invited?

The etiquette guru, Miss Manners, says you can only invite people who are invited to the wedding and I have to agree with her on this one. Unlike the engagement or bachelorette party, the bridal shower’s main purpose is for people to bring you gifts. Inviting someone to give the bride a gift, but not the wedding is a bit rude.

Traditionally this is a women only event, but this is changing more and more everyday. The invites can be extended to all the womyn invited to the wedding who are particularly close friends with the bride. The best rule of thumb is to limit the guest list to only the bride’s closest family and friends. Remember, the bride’s family is growing with the wedding! It is completely normal and acceptable to invite people from the groom’s side of the family if the relationship allows!

Here is a general outline of who is typically invited:

• The bridesmaids

• The womyn the bride is close with in her immediate families 

• The womyn the bride is close with in her extended families

• Close friends in the area who are also invited to the wedding. This isn’t an event that people would typically travel for, so if you have close friends in the area add them to the list!

Pro-tip #1: If you invite some immediate or extended family, you DO NOT have to invite them all. Invite whoever makes sense in the bride’s unique situation.

Pro-tip #2: The groom doesn’t usually attend the bridal shower. He often will make an appearance at some point, but typically doesn’t stay for the duration of the party.

What information should the invitations include?

As always, names, date, location, and time will need to be included on the invitation. The host should also specify what kind of refreshments can be expected (appetizers only, full dinner, hosted bar, BYOB, no alcohol, etc.). Depending on what kind of theme you are going with, the headline on the invitation can communicate this information. For example, “Brunch and Bubbly Bridal Shower” or “I Do BBQ.”

Guests are expected to bring gifts, so be sure to include the bride’s wedding registry on the invitation.

Who should pay for the bridal shower?

The cost of the bridal shower typically will fall on the hostess(es). This can vary on a case by case basis depending on financial situations. The bride is never expected to pay for any portion of the bridal shower, though, on very rare occasions may be asked to contribute on certain items. For example, if the person hosting the event does not personally drink alcohol and doesn’t feel comfortable paying for it for guests, the bride may be asked to provide the alcohol. Typically the host would ask someone else close to the bride before coming to the bride with this request, though. Much like the actual wedding, budget isn’t what defines the day. The most important aspect is celebrating your love while surrounded by the people who mean the most to you! (See the end of blog for full example budget breakdowns.)

Where should the bridal shower be hosted?

The bridal shower can be hosted in any venue, it will just depend on the size of the guest list and access to space. While the event can be as formal or informal as the hostess(es) would like, the shower is often thrown in the maid of honor or a family member’s home or backyard. If the hostess(es) does not have space, or just isn’t into the idea of having this kind of gathering in their personal space, a restaurant or smaller venue is always an option! Since this event doesn’t typically include a full meal, choosing to host at a venue might add unnecessary cost.

The bridal shower is usually thrown in the city that the hostess(es) is local to. This may not be the city the bride lives in, so she will need to travel to party. This isn’t typically an event people besides the bride would travel for, so potential guests living outside of the hostess(es) city may not make sense to invite. That is okay! Communicate with those friends and family so they understand why they aren’t receiving an invitation!

What should we do at the bridal shower?

Opening the presents is the primary activity of a bridal shower. Typically around ⅔ of the way through the party everyone will gather around the bride as she opens gifts. Since dinner isn’t usually provided, a few other activities will take place to keep guests entertained and engaged. Since the guests are generously offering gifts to the bride, the groom will often make a quick appearance to say hello and thank everyone. During his appearance, there are several games to play that will include him! Some ideas include the shoe game, a Q & A with the bride(s) and groom(s), or a date night guessing game! For a full list of ideas, click here to visit our Pinterest page! No matter what kind of activities are planned, it is always nice if the guest of honor can make a quick thank you speech. The bridesmaids and/or the bride’s family have typically offered a lot of support leading up to this point aside from hosting the shower and it is always nice for the bride to show her appreciation!

Example bridal shower timeline

• 1pm- Guests arrive. Everyone mingles, make appetizer plates, grabs their drinks, and makes anonymous date night suggestion.

• 1:30pm- Game 1: “Guess the Dress” game

• 1:45pm- Host reminds everyone to enter ideas into the anonymous date night suggestions

• 1:45pm- Toasts from mother of the groom, mother of the bride, grandma, and bridesmaid who won’t give a toast at the wedding

• 2pm- Slide show of friends/family pictures viewing

• 2:15pm- Game 2: Bride reads anonymous date night suggestions aloud and guesses who made each suggestion

• 2:45pm- Groom arrives, says hello

• 3pm- Game 3: Shoe game with Groom

• 3:15pm- Groom leaves

• 3:15pm- Bride opens presents (maid of honor tracks gifts for thank you notes)

• 3:45pm- Group picture

• 4pm- Bridal shower concludes

Is a full dinner expected at the bridal shower?

Everyone appreciates a nice full meal, but it isn’t expected nor is it the norm at bridal showers. Just be sure the hostess(es) specifies either way on the invitation so guests can plan accordingly!

Typically light refreshments are offered. Some ideas include a cheese board, fruit/veggie platters, chips and dips, cupcakes, cookies, or anything else that is easy to grab and snack on. If you want something cost effective, but a little more filling consider thinly sliced pizzas, pasta salads, hamburger sliders, or even mini tacos! For beverages, a few common trends are mimosa bars, pre-batched cocktails or mocktails, wine and/or wine spritzers, or build your own Bloody Mary bars. For a list of food and beverage ideas and display inspiration click here!

What should be included in the budget?

This completely depends on what the hostess(es) chooses to include! Below are some typical things to consider budgeting for:

• Catering/food

• Tables, chairs, plates, cups, flatware, napkins, etc. 

• Bar/drinks

• Cake/dessert

• Invitations

• Decor

• Miscellaneous 

Of course there are endless approaches to maximize any budget! Below are 3 example budgets for Bridal showers.

Example 1 (the “bells and whistles” example)- overall budget $9k

40 guests, 3 hour party

• Party Planner- $850

• Venue (mother of the bride’s backyard)- FREE

• Caterer (Cheese/fruit grazing board)- $2k

• Bar (mimosa & bloody mary bar w/ bartender)- @ $15/person = $600

• Cake from speciality bakery (2 tier 6” base, 4” top tier)- $450

• Cupcake and macaroon display- $200

• Ice cream caddy & attendant- $200

• Photographer- $500

• Music/entertainment (Live guitarist & singer)- $625

• Rentals- $500

  • 4 large floor tables (low the the ground)- $120

  • Festive carpeting to go below table- $150

  • Cushions for everyone to sit on- $120

  • 1 large wicker peacock chair- $50

  • Delivery- $60

• Invitations (mailed invitations, w/ stamps & envelopes)- @$2/household = $70

• Decor- $1,650

  • 2 large balloon displays @$200/arrangement = $400

  • 2 small balloon arrangements to accent bar and dessert table = $200

  • Florist (4 centerpieces & 4 small accent arrangements for signs & special tables)- $800

  • Signage (custom neon welcome sign, bar sign, cards and gifts sign etc.)- $250

• Miscellaneous- $1,150

  • Photo booth (2 hrs)- $250

  • Party favors (ex. Spa goodie bags)- @$20/each = $800

  • Gift & activity table (sign, card box, etc.)- $100

TOTAL: $8,795

Example 2 (the “mid range backyard” example)- overall budget $1.2k

40 guests, 3 hour party

• Venue (MOH backyard/patio/living room)- FREE

• Veggie/fruit/easy apps- $200

• Bar (DIY mimosa bar & pre batched cocktails)- $350

  • 1 pre batched cocktail (ex. Vodka/Grapefruit)

  • 2 handles of mid-range vodka @$40/handle = $80

  • Grapefruit juice $30

  • 1 case mid-range champagne @ $15/btl $180

  • Orange juice/guava/other juice $40

  • Ice for cocktails = $20

• Cake (single tier cake from local grocer)- $35

• Cupcake display (homemade)- $15

• Rentals (tables, chairs)- $300

  • 4 tables & table cloths @$30/table = $120

  • 40 chairs @ $3/chair = $120

  • Delivery- $60

• Music/entertainment (make your own playlist and play through your own speaker)- FREE

• Invitations (Send out email with curated digital invite)- FREE

• Decor- $50

  • DIY Flowers (Trader Joe’s flowers) 5 bushels @ $5/bushel = $25

  • Dollar store vases 1 per table @$1/each = $4

  • Candles & dollar tree candle votives (2 per table)- $2/each = $8

• Miscellaneous- $250

  • Party favors (ex. Goodie bag)- @$5/each = $200

  • Gift table (sign, card box, etc.)- $50

TOTAL: $1,200

Example 3 (the “ballin’ on a budget” example)- overall budget $300

40 guests, 3 hour party

• Venue (MOH backyard/patio/living room)- FREE

• Veggie/fruit/pretzels/hummus/chips/dip- $50

• Bar (DIY mimosa bar & pre batched cocktails)- $170

  • 1 pre batched cocktail (ex. Vodka/Grapefruit)

  • 2 handles of inexpensive vodka @$20/handle = $40

  • Grapefruit juice $30

  • 1 case inexpensive champagne @ $5/btl $60

  • Orange juice $20

  • Ice for cocktails $20

• Tables/chairs (use MOH existing furniture) FREE

• Disposable plates & napkins- $5

• Cupcake & cookie display (homemade)- $25

• Music/entertainment (make your own playlist and play through your own speaker)- FREE

• Invitations (Send out email with curated digital invite)- FREE

• Decor- $50

  • DIY Flowers (Trader Joe’s flowers) 3 bushels @ $5/bushel = $15

  • Amazon decor purchases $20

  • Print signs from computer FREE

TOTAL: $300

As you can see, the cost of the third example can easily decrease by skipping the alcohol, only offering BYOB, cutting out all decor, and/or skipping dessert. Basically this is all to say, no budget is too small!

Note: These numbers may seem intimidating. Usually, all of your bridesmaids will split the cost of these items. If you have 6 bridesmaids, the price per person is much more manageable. Also keep in mind, 40 guests for a bridal shower is on the larger side of average. Invite less people to get the cost down! 

Save the Dates, Invitations, and a bit on RSVPs

Sending out Save the Dates and Invitations are SUCH fun parts of wedding planning. For so many people this is the first step that makes everything feel real. Soak in these vital steps, and feel confident you are doing it right by reading the information below!

Before reading on, here are two super useful tips!

Pro-tip #1: A common mistake people make is ordering for guest count instead of household.

Mistake: ordering 250 invitations for 250 guests

Pro planning: ordering 1 invitation per household (i.e average household 3 people/house: 250 divided by 3 = ~83 Save the Dates and invitations)

Pro-tip #2: Order extra! You may want to invite additional people and you will probably want one for keepsake. While you still don’t need to order one for every single guest, rounding up is always good in case you make new friends, have people drop out that you want to replace, or just want a few extra for your own (or parents, family, close friends, etc.) keepsake! Another huge pro to this- the big name stationary sites base their discounts on round numbers, so ordering 100 vs. 84 will end up being less expensive.

Mistake- Ordering 84 save the dates/invitations for ~83 households.

Pro planning: Ordering 100 save the dates/invitations for ~83 house holds.

Save the Dates

Save the Dates are a great way to mentally prepare your guests for your upcoming wedding. You might not have all the details like time, location, attire, meal plan, etc. hammered out, but a Save the Date will let guests know the most basic information about the wedding to plan for. While these are helpful with communicating this information to guests, they do add some cost to your wedding and aren’t necessary for every situation.

When are Save the Dates REALLY needed?

Save the Dates can be useful for every wedding, but you don’t HAVE to have them for any wedding. If you are tight on money, time, or simply just don’t want them you can skip them altogether. Save the Dates are most useful when planning either a destination wedding or when planning a wedding where most of your guests will be traveling. In a situation where guests will need to be traveling it is useful to let everyone know ahead of time. Save the Dates allow guests the opportunity to save money/sent money aside for travel and gifts, communicate with work, and plan for childcare (if necessary).

When should I send my Save the Dates out?

Save the Dates can be sent whenever you have solidified a date and location. You can technically send them before a venue is booked if you are 100% positive of the city and date the wedding will be held, but it is best to send them once the venue is booked. Couples will often fall in love with a venue that isn’t available on their desired date, so they change the date to accommodate the venue. If the date you have chosen means a lot to you and you are positive you will be selecting a venue based on the date and not the other way around, go ahead and send the Save the Dates!

If you are having a lot of out of town guests or planning a destination wedding Save the Dates ideally will be sent a full year in advance. If your wedding is more intimate and still requires a majority of guests to travel, Save the Dates should be sent in the 6-8 month prior range, if possible. If you are planning a more intimate wedding in a shorter time span it may be more efficient to skip the Save the Dates, touch base personally with guests to give them a heads up, and send invitations a little sooner than you would typically.

What is the latest I should send a Save the Date?

This, again, will vary depending on the situation. The absolute latest in any situation that you should send a Save the Date is 2 months out from the wedding (and this still only works for a really intimate wedding with short planning period). For a larger wedding this deadline should be by the 4 month mark. For a larger travel heavy wedding this deadline should be 5 months out. If you can’t make this deadline, skip the Save the Dates altogether and just send an invitation. Even for an intimate wedding, 2 months would be cutting it pretty close. Keep in mind, you will need to confirm with the venue and caterers the final headcount about a month prior to the wedding so you need to have time for people to receive their Save the Date and invitation and then RSVP.

What information should my Save the Dates include?

Save the Dates are just a quick, formal heads up to guests that you will be hosting a wedding on a particular date in a certain city. At minimum the Save the Date should include your names, date, and city. A lot of couples will build a wedding website and include that on the Save the Date as well. Even if the wedding website isn’t 100% completed (and frankly at this point it probably won’t be) providing the link will give guests a resource to check in to for more information as it is made available. If you have your venue locked in you can also include this in the Save the Date.

What should my Save the Dates look like?

Like everything else with a wedding, this completely depends on what you want. A common trend is for people to use a photo from their engagement session as the background of their Save the Date. Another common trend is for people to make their Save the Dates magnets so people can keep them on their fridge or somewhere convenient to find the information.

Invitations

What information should I include in my invitations?

Invitations should be a quick snapshot of all the vital information guests need to know in order to show up to the right place at the right time on the right day. They should include the who, what, when, where, and why of the day (not necessarily in that order). Include both the bride(s) and/or groom(s) names. If someone other than yourselves are paying for a chunk, the majority, or all of the wedding it is common to word your invitation: “X and X invite you to the wedding of their [son/daughter/other- name] to [fiance name here].” The name and address of the venue is vital. They will also need to know what time to arrive. If you have a wedding website you can include the website and let people know that they can RSVP and find more info there. If you don’t have a wedding website, you’ll need to include an RSVP card and pre-stamped envelope for guests to send back. You’ll also need to include a meal card if necessary, attire expectation (even if super casual, let them know!! No one wants to show up in a ball gown when everyone else is in sun dresses!), whether kids are invited or not, hotel block information (even if you don’t have a room block, they will need to know!), transportation accommodations, and information on events surrounding the wedding (pre-wedding welcome event, after wedding brunch etc.). Again, if you have a wedding website, you can list all of this info on the website and have your invite include just the very basics.

Pro-tip: directing guests to a wedding website for more info is a great option if possible. You can update information as plans evolve, include an FAQ page so guests can refer to this instead of having everyone individually reach out to you with questions, and, last but certainly not least, you can have your registry on your website so when guests visit to RSVP they can conveniently purchase a gift.

What should my invitations look like?

Again, the aesthetics of the invitations completely depend on your taste. If possible, it is ideal to have your invitations aesthetic inline with your wedding. Chose colors, shapes, and fonts that are relatively similar to those that will be at your wedding. This will help with a few things. First, this will give guests an idea of what to expect. It can set the tone of formality and give them an idea into color scheme. If you don’t want people to dress in the same colors as your bridal party or vice versa, let them know! Either way, invitations are a great ay to start communicating what those colors will be. Second, photographers love to capture your invitation as a prop on the wedding day. Having this match the overall aesthetic will create for some more cohesive pictures. Again, this is just a suggestion. It is your wedding and there are no rules; do literally whatever you want.

When should I send my invitations?

This will vary depending on a few factors. Some things to consider: when do you need to confirm numbers with the caterer and venue? How many people will be traveling for your wedding? How many people are you inviting (the more people you invite, the more people you will need to track down to confirm RSVP status!!)? For reference, for an average wedding of 150 guests with 33% traveling domestically, you should send the invitations out 2.5 months prior to the wedding, with the RSVP date 1-1.5 months prior to the wedding depending on catering and venue requirements.

When should I have guests RSVP by?

For your own sake, it is best to set the RSVP date at least 1 month prior to your date. Guest count will alter your seat/table count, plate count, party favor count, etc. Never have I ever been a part of a wedding of any size where 100% of the guests RSVP on time on their own without a nudge. Giving yourself some extra time will help alleviate some of the planning that just can’t be done until the final headcount is in. While a month is the minimum, I highly recommend giving yourself at least 1.5 months so you have a full 2 weeks to track people down and get all RSVPs. If you are having a wedding with over 250 guests, give yourself a full 2 months. Even if you are having a wedding of 1,000 don’t give yourself more than 2 months, though. Expectedly, things happen in our guests lives and anything longer than 2 months will allow for too many unforeseeable variables in guests lives and you’ll have to do a lot of adjusting as people’s plans change.

Some great resources to purchase your Save the Dates and/or invitations

There are plenty of boutique vendors that can create incredible custom pieces for you. Everyone will have a different niche aesthetic. If you are looking for something on the less niche and more affordable end check out the following:

www.vistaprint.com

Why I love them- you can really create whatever look you are going for. There are some preset templates you can use if you are ~creatively challenged~ or you can fully customize your own cards if you’re into DIYing the design. Their prints are consistent and good quality. Another huge plus, they are CHEAP.

Pro-tip- Google discount codes before ordering! They are almost ALWAYS running a special. If you can’t find one, create an account BEFORE creating your cards. Save your design and then sit back and wait. Within a week they will email you a discount code.

www.minted.com

Why I love them- Their designs are lovely, their prints are consistent, and they give my clients a discount. Use my code: WEDPLLA for 35% off Save the Dates and 25% off all wedding things.

www.basicinvite.com

Why I love them- My very favorite thing about this site is they offer clear invitations for about $1 each. The next least expensive clear option I have found is $8/each. The price is unbeatable. They offer plenty of other designs or fully customizable blank slate options as well. The prints are consistent and good quality. They allow you to fully customize the invitations and Save the Dates.

Pro-tip- look for discount codes! They aren’t as common as Vistaprint discount codes, but their prices are already lower so it balances out. It is still worth looking for a code though!

Have additional questions? Feel free to reach out via email! theweddingplannerla@gmail.com

As always, happy planning!!

10 Ways to Stay Organized While Wedding Planning

Staying organized is key when it comes to wedding planning! While this may come more naturally for some than others, getting an early start to organization will help everyone equally. If you have found yourself already knee deep in wedding planning with no real organization plan, don’t fret! It is never too late to get on top of organization! Here are 10 great ways to get and stay organized throughout wedding planning!

1. Create a wedding email and check it often.

   Having an email specific to your wedding is helpful for two main reasons. First, this will help keep all of your wedding related emails organized and in one place. Second, once the wedding is over, this will save you from having promotional emails sent from vendors crowding your regular email’s inbox! Having a separate email will only work if you check it often, though!

2. Keep all of your wedding information in one spot.

   There are many ways to go about this. I have come across some amazing hard copy wedding planning journal style books, however, I highly recommend going digital. This allows you to easily edit or add information as your planning evolves. I personally love Google Docs for this. With this platform it is simple to keep your information organized, the documents are easy to send out if you need to share any of the information, you can save all of your contracts into your Google Doc wedding folder, and you can invite your fiancé, bridal party, parents, planner, or whoever else to edit relevant documents (think: to-do lists!!). No matter what platform you choose, it is immensely helpful to keep everything together in one space!

3. Make a planning timeline.

   Map out the days/months/years that you have to plan your wedding and then breakdown your vendor searches and planning process into smaller more manageable timeframes. Take into consideration what will be going on in your personal life during this time, and plan your planning around that! Mapping out your “plan of attack” for wedding planning will help you feel confident you are making progress, help you stay on top of your to-do list, and (hopefully) make the whole wedding planning process more fun!! Click here for more on creating a planning timeline.

4. Create a budget outline.

   I may be a little budget obsessed, but it is for good reason! Budget is important! Not-so-fun fact: I once had a friend blow their budget by $60k. That was 200% their initial budget. So how did that happen? The budget wasn’t being tracked and it wasn’t accurately assessed before vendors started being booked. Avoid this situation by creating a full budget breakdown BEFORE booking any vendors. Do some research to make sure your estimates are accurate and allocate money to the things you value most. This will guide every single aspect of your wedding planning, so it is important to get a head start on this early on! Make sure that you stay within budget (or consciously decide to extend the budget) by carefully tracking every expenditure. If you have multiple people funding the wedding, track who paid what, when and using which method. This will be important not only for tracking your budget, but also for tracking what outstanding balances you still have coming. Click here for more on creating a budget outline.

5. Create a Pinterest board(s).

   Wedding planning in the days of Pinterest has been a joy. There is a world of inspiration out there just waiting for you to tap into it. While scrolling through the millions of inspiration pictures your vision may change and that is okay! As your vision shifts, take away pins that are no longer inspiring to you. If you like something about a picture, make a note of what it is specifically that makes you want to incorporate this into your wedding. Pinterest boards are great to share with your wedding planner, florist, decorator, hair and makeup team, and baker, so keep is up to date and organized! Pro-tip: bare budget in mind when looking through Pinterest. Pinterest doesn’t filter for price, and it can be painful to fall in love with a dress or floral arrangement. That being said, just because something looks super expensive doesn’t necessarily mean it has to be. If you really love something, look into it! Maybe it is more attainable than you initially thought! Visit The Wedding Planner LA Pinterest page for inspiration!

6. Keep a running list of booked vendors.

   Have your basic vendor info all on one page so you can find the necessary info at a glance instead of shuffling through contracts. You can format this however works best for you, but it is super useful to include the following information for each vendor all compiled in one document:

   1. Service being provided

   2. Company name

   3. Contact person name

   4. Contact person email & phone number

   5. Number of hours booked (start and end time as soon as known!)

   6. Remaining balance, payment due date(s), and preferred payment method

   7. If they require a vendor meal & dietary restrictions if applicable (usually this will be your planner/coordination team, photographer, videographer, DJ/Musician, and anyone else onsite for longer than 5 hours).

   8. Instagram handle

7. Make lists.

   Lists are your friend. List out everything. Your big to-do list, smaller to-do list, wedding vendor research information, style inspiration, etc. Lists are great because you can track your progress and remember all of the little details that you have been or intend to work on.

8. Build a wedding website.

   This will save you SO. MUCH. WORK. A wedding website will do a lot of organizing for you. Have your registry on the website to easily track gifts. You can even track who you have already sent thank you cards to! Have guests RSVP on the website to easily track those. Provide useful information and updates about the wedding so you don’t have 50 guests calling to ask the same question. A wedding website is an incredibly useful tool

9. Send thank you cards as you receive gifts.

   Speaking of your registry and thank you cards, stay organized and save yourself a lot of time by writing thank you cards as you receive gifts. It is easier to track this if you have a wedding website, but even if you are going a less techy route, be sure to list the gifts you have received, immediately send a thank you, and track the thank you’s once you have sent them. Pro-tip: Trying to write 100 thank you’s at once is daunting and tiresome. Sending thank you’s as gifts come in will allow you the time to write a thoughtful response.

10. Create a seating chart.

    First, let me say, creating a draft of this is helpful if you find yourself randomly with a few extra hours in a day, but you cannot finalize your seating chart until you get your RSVPs back. Second, this topic deserves its own blog. Check back for that one soon! In the meantime, here are two very vague reasons why a seating chart is useful:

    1. Food service. If you are doing plated dinner, you need people committed to a seat so that they can have the meal they were intended. If you are doing food buffet style you need everyone evenly distributed so when table 1 is called there is a predictable amount of people coming over for the catering staff. If you are doing family style, you need to know exactly how many people will be at each table in order to distribute food properly.

    2. Think back to your days of eating lunch at your high school cafeteria. It’s the first day of school and everyone is figuring out who to sit with. There are large groups of people who all love each other and want to sit together so 20 of them crowd around one lunch bench. There are five kids who are kind of friends with some of those people and they want to hang out with them, but they don’t see room for themselves. They scatter and feel a little hurt they weren’t specifically invited to the big table. There is the kid who doesn’t really know anyone so they sit off by themselves in a corner and don’t socialize with anyone. There is also everyone in between. Get ahead of the drama by assigning seats. It will make everyones life easier in the long run

Select Your Vendors Like a Pro

Selecting vendors can be a daunting task. There are SO many options out there so how can you be sure you are making a good choice? It is challenging selecting vendors that fit in your budget or are worth stretching the budget for! There are a few specific steps I take when sifting through and vetting vendors before sending them to my clients. Follow these steps and you’ll be picking vendors like a pro!

***Before you get going on vendor research, I highly recommend making a full budget!! Making a full, realistic budget will help guide your vendor selection. See my full budget guide here***

Decide on a general vision for each specific vendor-

Before diving into the deep end of vendor research, have an idea of what you are after. A few things to shape this vision: budget, what you hope to get out of your contract with this vendor (i.e. how many hours, how many assistants, etc.), what “style” do you want (i.e. what kind of venue do you want, what style of photography do you like, what kind of food do you want, etc.).

1. Venue- indoor, outdoor, mix of both, beach, woods, mountains, all inclusive, DIY, somewhere in between, how late do you want to be there into the evening, will they be hosting other events in the space that day, will they take care of trash removal, do they provide restrooms, power, or any other basic amenities, do they provide tables, chairs, an arbor, a bar space,etc.? For reference, a wedding with 100 guests at a venue that provides only power and restrooms will cost about $7k in rentals, if you go with the most basic rental options. This should absolutely be factored in to your overall cost when selecting a venue.

2. Wedding Planner- do you want to be involved in wedding planning or do you want to think about it as little as possible? You will spend a lot of time with your wedding planner and your wedding planner needs to be able to see YOUR vision in order to create your special day. Make sure that this is someone you are ready and excited to spend time with!

3. Photographer- do you want light and airy, dark and moody, true to color, posed photos, raw emotions, or a mix, how many hours will you need them, do you need 2 photographers or will one suffice (2 are recommended for larger guest counts and spread out venues), do you want an engagement shoot, how many photos are you hoping to get back? Ask to see a full wedding album instead of just the highlights!

4. Videographer- what do you want included in the video? Montage of key events throughout the day, full vows, speeches, and special dances, or a combo of the above? Be sure to look through several examples so you have a clear idea of what your edit will include.

5. Caterer- what kind of food do you want, how will it be served, will they provide apps as well, do they offer plates, cups, and flatware rentals, how experienced are they with larger events, do they provide bussers?

6. DJ/Musician- will they make announcements for you throughout the event, how many sound systems will they bring (you will need 2-3 for most venues if you are doing ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception in different spaces), will they allow you to provide song requests, do they have experience playing to a crowd, can they provide a microphone for the ceremony and reception, how active are they on the mic? HINT: A sound system is the full set up which will include a set of speakers (1-2 speakers for ceremony cocktail hour, 2+ speakers for dinner/dancing), microphone (confirm this with your DJ! Some charge extra), amp, mixer, music device (usually a laptop), and dance floor lighting (where appropriate).

7. Bar- do you need a full service bar, or would you like to build your own bar and hire just the bartenders? Will your venue allow you to DIY the bar? If you are DIYing the bar, will you ned to rent the physical bar? Are you bartenders licensed?

8. Florist- do you want more “traditional” bouquets and centerpieces or would you like something else? Are you looking for other decor rental? A lot of florists also offer vases, candles, and other decor to add to your order. Be sure to look through their portfolios! If you have a go-to florist you typically use, but are looking for a different style, show them some examples of what you would like and see if it is something they have experience with or feel comfortable doing. A lot of florists will do special designs that are outside of their norm but not show examples of this work on their Instagram or website because it isn’t “on brand.”

9. Dessert- what kind of dessert do you want, how do you want your cake to look, how many tiers do you wants the cake to have, will they deliver or do your desserts need to be picked up?

10. Hair and makeup- up-do, hair down, braiding, something in between, heavy contour makeup, natural look, something in between? Be sure to look through portfolios and ask for a trial run day! Trial runs are very important! Not just to make sure you like the styles they come up with but also to see how long your hair and makeup are holding up throughout the day.

11. Rentals- does the company offer unique pieces that will work with your venue, are the rates competitive with other comparable companies in your area, what will they charge for delivery, do they offer same day delivery and pick up, can they extend delivery and pick up is necessary?

Do your own research-

Recommendations from friends or professionals are a great place to start, but doing your own research to make sure they are a good fit for you is vital. Just because a friend or professional has had a good experience with someone, doesn’t mean they are going to be a great fit for you! Friends of friends may offer discounts, but if these people are not professionals then you may be wasting $400 instead of feeling good about spending $800. Ask to see pictures or videos of these “friendors” in action! If they do this professionally on the side, ask for a website or review site link! I’ve seen plenty of vendors that recommend other vendors that they haven’t worked with for a long time. Business quality can change overtime so it is important to confirm the recommended company is still worth your while!

Diversify your Research sources-

Conduct research from a few different angles. A quick google search might not yield the kind of options that you are looking for. WeddingWire, The Knot, Thumbtack, Facebook wedding groups, and sites like these will give you more diverse vendor options! Depending on the type of vendor you are looking for search on Instagram, too!

Always cross reference reviews-

Reviews can vary from platform to platform so it is important to cross reference and be sure that you are getting the most recent takes on the company. Some insight into review companies: anyone can leave a company reviews on Google so companies may ask their friends to leave reviews to raise their overall rating. WeddingWire is similar, but it is more challenging to leave a review on, so friends are less likely to pad the reviews for vendors. Yelp has an algorithm that is meant to weed out “fake” reviews, but a lot of real reviews are taken down in the process (there are also a lot of theories on their marketing approach that can also affect the reviews that show). Be sure to scroll down on the Yelp pages to the “unrecommended” section to read reviews that aren’t weighted in overall.

Read reviews with a different perspective-

Even if you like the quote a company sends and they have five stars across review platforms, be sure to read the reviews and look for consistencies. For example, if I’m looking for DJ/MCs and I see a lot of five star reviews saying how the MC "is really active on the mic,” I’m not going to send that company to a couple who really just wants music and a few key announcements.

Schedule phone or in-person meetings before booking-

It is important to feel comfortable on your wedding day and your vendors a huge part of your comfort! You will spend so much time with certain vendors on your actual wedding day, and even the ones that you won’t, they will still interact with guests! If you have a vendor that runs a little high strung, they may create unnecessary anxiety on your special day. A great way to accommodate this is to make sure your personalities mesh beforehand!

Read through your contracts very, very closely-

This is a legally binding document that should protect you as well as the vendor. Make sure that there is fine print written in about what will happen in the event of cancelation (on either the couple AND vendors part). Numbers and dates should be firm (I.e. by what date will you get sneak peek pics back, when can you expect the full album back, how many photos can you expect back, etc. These examples are specific to photos, but all contracts should be quantitative and clear. This does not apply when booking a wedding planner if you don’t already have a venue secured). A contract that doesn’t protect you is definitely a red flag!! If you find any of these issues and bring them up to a vendor and they are unwilling to adjust the contract to protect you, that is a major red flag and a good sign that you should continue your search!

Other notable tips:

1. A vendor’s experience doesn’t necessarily chalk up to quality of service! Just because someone hasn’t been working weddings specifically for a long time doesn’t mean they should be immediately counted out. If you like their style, food, etc., they are well informed on the effort that weddings take, and they are ready to do what it takes to do an awesome job on your wedding they are still worth considering. If you unsure about them, ask your wedding planner or coordinator! They may be able to offer valuable insight to make sure you are making the best decisions for your wedding!

2. Break up your search into several days. It is easy to get burnt out on sifting through vendors. Packages start to run together, things that would normally stick out become easy to overlook, and the whole experience may become less enjoyable.

3. Be thorough! Don’t settle! You can find the perfect vendor out there for you!

Be sure to check out my preferred vendors list to kick start your search!

Useful links:

Budget planning tips: https://www.theweddingplannerla.com/blog/wedding-budgeting-the-first-step-to-planning

My preferred vendors: https://www.theweddingplannerla.com/resources

Day of Decor/Photo Op Props Checklist

As you think through your wedding day and are organizing the pieces you have bought or rented, work through this list to make sure you have accounted for everything! This will be particularly helpful as you are in those final stages and packing everything up to be moved to the venue! Remember, every wedding is unique and you may not want to incorporate some of these pieces. If you don’t want some piece, don’t force it just because it is on this list! If you have planned for other pieces, feel free to copy and paste this then add in your own specific bullet points.

Getting Ready Space:

• Food

• Something to serve food on

• Plates

• Napkins

• Drinks

• Something to serve drinks from

• Something to drink drinks from

• Signage

• Invitation/Save the Dates (for pictures)

• Speakers to play music from

• Phone or other device to play music from (pro tip: if you are getting ready in a place that won’t have wifi or cell reception download your playlist ahead of time!)

• Special hanger for dress

• Something to wear while getting ready

Ceremony:

• Altar flowers

• Altar Floor decor

• Aisle decor

• Ceremony programs

• Table for special ceremonies (i.e. sand ceremony, glass ceremony, wine ceremony, etc.)

• Decor for special ceremony table

• Signs (welcome, unplugged ceremony signs, etc.)

• Easel for signs

Cocktail Hour:

Gift table

• Linen

• Sign for gift table

• Card box

• Guest book

• Pen(s) for guest book

• Something to hold pens

• Decor for gift table

• Flowers for gift table

Appetizer table

• Linen

• Signs/labels for apps

• Serving utensils for apps

• Plates

• Forks

• Napkins

Self service drink station table

• Linen

• Drink dispenser

• Labels for beverages

• Cups

Bar

• Bar menu

• Flowers

Reception Area:

Seating chart

• Easel for seating chart

• Flowers to dress up easel

Place card table

• Linen

• Place cards

• Sign for place cards

• Flowers

• Other decor

Cake/dessert table

• Linen

• Display for cake

• Cake topper

• Serving set of cake knife and server

• Plates for cake

• Forks for cake

• Napkins

• Cake stand(s)

• Other display items for other desserts

• Other decor

• Flowers

Sweetheart table

• Linen

• Special plates

• Special cups

• Flatware

• Napkins

• Flowers for the top of table

• Other decor for top of table

• Flowers for front of table

• Other decor for front of table

Guest tables

• Linen

• Flowers

• Candles

• Table number

• Table number stands

• Other decor/personal touches

• Plates

• Flatware

• Drinkware

• Napkins